November 2014
You say you love me and we play a game,
Then you hit me and cause me pain.
I trust you and we are carefree,
But when I make you mad you strike out at me.
When I’m frustrated and throw a fit,
You tell me it’s not okay to hit.
But then in turn when I do something wrong,
You hit me when I’m weak and you are strong.
I’m just a child I don’t understand,
Why you strike me with your loving hand.
Mixed messages are sent and I get confused,
While you’re hitting me your lesson I loose.
It is in your house I have to stay,
Until I’m grown and move away.
What I learn from you I’ll take with me,
Out into the world when I am free.
My prayer is you guide by a loving hand,
One I will love and understand.
That love does not have to equal pain,
And that you won’t strike me ever again.
Childhood lessons are hard to learn,
And I understand when you have to be stern.
But hitting me just hurts my soul,
And will stay with me as I grow old.
Please don’t hit me I’m just a child,
And growing up will take many miles.
I do not want to fear your touch,
Because for now I love you much.
You say it’s okay because it was done to you,
But they were wrong too you just never knew.
I can learn in other ways just fine,
If you would just stop a moment and take the time.
Lead by example and teach me with love,
As God has blessed you with me from heaven above.
He’s trusted you with my tender keep,
All I want is to feel safe as I fall asleep.
Memories from the day I carry to bed,
And your actions sleep inside my head.
I’m just small I don’t know what’s right,
I just need you to be my guiding light.
In the Name of Discipline
A Comentary from the Author
In the name of discipline parents spank. Spanking is an ineffective parenting tool that is an indolent way to parent children. Instead of taking the time to work out the problem and learn tried and true proven methods of teaching our children self control, parents use hitting and yelling to get a fast result while wounding the self esteem and soul of a child. It makes them feel small, insignificant, helpless and shamed.
Yes I know there are strong feelings around the concept of spanking, tradition, cultural upbringing, along with learned behavior of the spanker and ignorance all come into play. But regardless of what your thoughts and beliefs are around the subject of spanking, the outcome is the same. The hard core facts lie in the face of humankind, the truth that speaks louder than the cries of the child.
Spanking teaches:
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That people in authority over you who are bigger than you have the right to hurt you.
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That it’s okay to hit someone and yell at them when you aren’t getting your way.
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That the people who are supposed to love you can take their anger out at on you at your disobedience by asserting their power over you in a most shameful and hurtful way.
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That hitting an animal is frowned upon, animal services call it a crime, a man is not supposed to hit a woman, you cannot hit your neighbor, yet somehow it is acceptable to hit a child, the most innocent and vulnerable souls of the world all in the name of discipline.
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That it is okay to not control your anger in a constructive non violent way.
- That love equals pain.
Where or when in our society is it permitted to ever hit another human being? The answer is at no time except in the case of true self defense and in the confines of your home against the most innocent, small, defenseless gifts that we call our children.
I know that this view point will have a backlash of comments from those who spank and call it justice, but no adult should ever physically or mentally hurt a child who cannot protect themselves. It is a dishonor to our species that we have not yet evolved enough to have done away with such a barbaric, archaic, violent method of teaching discipline.
– Susan Kubert
Photo by Lilly Schelling
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